~Romance~

Romantic things don’t have much meaning if it does not happen with the right person. For example, the over-cliched scene where you are walking on the corridor looking out the window and suddenly, you trip and fall into the arms of a man. It would forever be etched in your memory because it is not something that happens every day; but it won’t be romantic. When you are seated in the passenger’s seat and the car suddenly comes to a halt or encounters a hump; the person sitting in the driver’s seat straightens his hand out to block you from getting hurt. At that moment if you are travelling with just a friend or someone who is not ‘The guy’, your heart won’t flutter, and you won’t look at him. You will only be grateful that they care for you and look out, to enjoy the rest of the journey. There might also be a moment when you hug him while crying. It would simply make you feel at ease as you were able to share that pain with another human. Even though this scene is repeatedly shown as ‘romantic and Lovely’ in the dramas and the movies, it simply won’t have the same meaning because it was not meant to be that way. Kiss on the forehead or lips or cheek don’t mean what they say they do on internet forums. All this, if it is not with that one person who makes you excited for no reason, has a different meaning than the norms.

That person is not the one you have these co-incidents with. He is not the one who texts you if you are doing well, once every week. He is not the one who agrees to all your plans and helps you strike off the items on your bucket list. It just does not work that way.

It is not necessary that you have fairy tale like experiences when you are with him. Don’t miss on him if he does not ask you out in the critically acclaimed beautiful way. In a starry night or beside a camp fire, holding a ring or flying all the way especially for your birthday. Considering these scenarios as a sign from god or the heavens is not something that should be done. Just trust your heart. If you heart does not race when he looks at you, then ladies, he is not the right one. There was a reason why our heart and brain are wired differently. There was a reason why the two always end up in a conflict. Everything is inside of you. You need not look for approval. Just trust your instincts and go for it. There is a reason why all the stories are different even though it is the same old love.

P.S : I am currently watching a Korean drama called ‘The Producers’. I was watching episode 9 and there is a scene where Kim Soo Hyun makes sure that that Gong Hyo Jin is not hurt while driving just like the scene I mentioned earlier. Though, it does look like they are a couple in the drama, I just wondered, what if, they were not. What if it was a scene with the main actor and the second lead actress? They won’t end up together because they are not meant to be. But if the second lead actress thinks that this is all god’s doing and a way of showing her that he is the ‘one’, she would only end up crying at the end of the drama. We might not even know if she gets to meet her match or not. Just like it does every time. 

#TG 09-03-2018 11:45PM